Ask amy dating advice
Dear Amy: I’m a 20-year-old college student who just began dating a great guy.
He’s really funny, and I feel comfortable with him.
My friend considers herself to be at fault for her divorce, even though her ex was a horrible human being (though not physically abusive). She is going out of her way to make sure that her kids have a male “father figure” in their lives. I have tried telling her that she is enough, that the kids truly do love her, and that those of us around her are more than glad to pick up the slack, but it often falls on deaf ears.
Her kids are a preteen and an adolescent — a boy and a girl.
I asked him one day if he has cheated on me since we have been married. He has answered some of my questions, but some he ignores — or changes the subject. Many survivors of infidelity don’t want to know details of their partner’s unfaithfulness, but some people do need to know.
Should I ask, or should I let it be and try to go on?
I believe that a lot of aimless dating isn’t really doing much good for her, or them.
She also tries to slide him into family situations as if he belongs. He is from a different part of the country, and they almost force us to accept him as one of the family.
You and other male friends and family members should be a positive presence in the life of this family.
Dear Amy: I have been fortunate in my life and have been able to travel, especially with my husband.
She initially asked me my thoughts and I let her know I thought she could do better, as this guy lived several states away at the time, smokes, drinks heavily, and didn’t have a job, among other reasons.
He eventually moved to be with her, got a job and tried to quit smoking (points).